{"_id":"6a4eb6822b206520b4162331","title":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"When is it permissible to use ambiguous speech with your parents?\"}]}]}}","question":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"What is the ruling on using tawriyah (deliberately ambiguous speech) with one's parents? Is it only permissible in important situations, and how serious must the situation be?\"}]}]}}","answer":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"underline\"},{\"type\":\"bold\"}],\"text\":\"Definition and Ruling\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Tawriya (or ta'rid) means saying something that has a true literal meaning but is intentionally phrased so the listener understands a different, yet valid meaning. It serves as a tool to avoid a direct lie. The governing principle of tawriya  is outlined by Imam al-Nawawi in al-Adhkar:\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"\\\"If using it is called for by a legitimate religious interest that outweighs the harm of misleading the one being addressed, or by a need that cannot be met except through lying, then there is nothing wrong with ta'rid/tawriya. If neither of these applies, it is disliked, though not forbidden, unless it is used as a means to wrongfully obtain something or to deny someone their right, in which case it becomes forbidden.\\\"\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"underline\"},{\"type\":\"bold\"}],\"text\":\"Application to Parents\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"When applying this principle to parents, the permissibility depends entirely on the severity and intent of the situation:\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"underline\"},{\"type\":\"italic\"}],\"text\":\"To Avoid Harm or Abuse (Permissible)\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"It is permissible to use tawriya to shield oneself from the unjust harm or anger of an abusive parent. In this scenario, protecting one's well-being is a legitimate necessity that justifies using a double-entendre to de-escalate a situation.\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"underline\"},{\"type\":\"italic\"}],\"text\":\"To Evade Duties or Accountabilities (Impermissible)\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"In a healthy household, it is not permissible to use tawriya to deceive your parents, such as tricking them into thinking you have completed a chore or an obligation when you have not. Using it in this manner crosses into denying them their right to obedience and misleads them purely to escape personal accountability.\"}]}]}}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":136}],"createdOn":"2026-07-08T20:43:46.804Z"}