{"_id":"699cc94926a7189aaba2a906","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can someone overcome the habit of altering the truth to please others?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I have a habit of changing the wording of things so that I tell people what they want to hear. I feel that this may be a form of lying. I often do it out of fear that others will reject me, feel uncomfortable, or ask difficult questions if I speak honestly. How can I overcome this tendency?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"إِنَّ الصِّدْقَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْبِرِّ، وَإِنَّ الْبِرَّ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ، وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَصْدُقُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ صِدِّيقًا، وَإِنَّ الْكَذِبَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْفُجُورِ، وَإِنَّ الْفُجُورَ يَهْدِي إِلَى النَّارِ، وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَكْذِبُ، حَتَّى يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ كَذَّابًا\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nThe Prophet (ﷺ) said, \"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"\\\"Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Lying leads to wickedness, and wickedness leads to Hell, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is recorded a liar.\\\"\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nYou should reflect on the root causes of your behavior. Next time it happens, write down what you said and then ask yourself why you felt you needed to say it, and write that down as well. Then in a few days, read and reflect on your journal. This may help you understand the underlying reasons. People-pleasing is an elusive and impossible goal, and it may come from low self-worth, anxiety about conflict, or trauma from past experiences where honesty was punished.\\n\\nReflect on whether or not your fears are proportionate to what might actually happen? Don't be afraid of a little discomfort or follow-up questions. At the end of the day honesty is what will bring you peace of mind.\\n\\nBeing honest does not mean you have to be harsh and blunt; you can express yourself honestly without being harsh, blunt, and direct.\\n\\nSince your impulse is to give a safe answer in order to alleviate your anxiety, try forcing yourself to pause before answering, and in that pause, ask yourself if what you're about to say is the truth or the edited truth.\\n\\nRemember, if someone only likes the edited version of you, then they don't actually like you.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff70b76658b4c232a7b","tag":"Worship: Sins","count":100},{"_id":"66e21b840793086d7b66bba3","tag":"Lying","count":4}],"createdOn":"2026-02-23T21:40:25.207Z"}