{"_id":"699cc85b26a7189aaba2a8ea","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Is it obligatory to use titles like “bhai” for older men, as is done in desi culture?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"In desi and Indo-Pak culture, it is common to attach the word “bhai” after the name of someone older as a sign of respect. For example, instead of saying “Ali,” one would say “Ali bhai.” This is generally seen as a cultural expression of respect toward elders.\\n\\nDo I have to use this term when addressing my older brothers or brother-in-law? At times it feels awkward to me, though I am not trying to be disrespectful. I do not mind using terms like “uncle” when someone is much older, but I feel hesitant about using “bhai.” Am I required to follow this custom?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Showing respect to elders is a core Islamic value. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, \"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"\\\"He is not of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect to our old ones.\\\"\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nSince desi culture considers the word bhai a way of showing respect to elders, then you should do your best to use the word. If it's awkward to you, then work on the awkwardness until it's gone, and see the discomfort as a small act of service to your family. After some time, then awkwardness will fade away,\\n\\nThat said, you're not committing a sin by not saying it. If you grew up in an environment where first names are the norm, your intention isn't to be disrespectful.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0830b76658b4c23393f","tag":"Relationships: Sibling","count":29},{"_id":"668d9fde0b76658b4c23278c","tag":"Relationships: In-Laws","count":11}],"createdOn":"2026-02-23T21:36:27.749Z"}