{"_id":"698656348d69260a2a70142b","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Do children have to comply if a father forbids them from helping their divorced mother remarry?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"A husband and wife have divorced, and their children are trying to assist their father in getting remarried. The father says that while he appreciates their help, he expects them not to help their mother, his ex-wife, in getting remarried. He is not saying they should prevent her, but that they should not assist her or, for example, attend or celebrate her wedding if she remarries, out of respect for him and his sense of gheerah.\\n\\nHe has also stated that if he finds out the children assisted their mother in getting remarried, he will take it very personally, be displeased with them, and make it a serious issue.\\n\\nMy questions are:\\nDoes the father have the right to impose this expectation on the children?\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"ordered\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"Should the children take his request into account, or should they do what is best for their mother regardless of the father’s wishes?\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"ordered\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"If the children do assist their mother and the father cuts off contact or claims to be displeased with them, would that displeasure be valid against the children, or would they not be held accountable for the father’s reaction?\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"ordered\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What I would advise here is that the kids either help both parents or not help any parent. If the father wants help, he should agree to allow the children to help their mother as well. If the father refuses to agree to this arrangement, they should prioritize preserving their relationship with him by not helping their mother, even though this is unfortunate.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111},{"_id":"668d9ff10b76658b4c2329bc","tag":"Marriage: Divorce","count":24}],"createdOn":"2026-02-06T20:59:32.989Z"}