{"_id":"69164b75c14f6b67b9ff0d4e","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How should a wife handle unmet emotional needs in the marriage?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I feel like I’m not getting what I need from my marriage emotionally. I don’t feel loved or cared for in the way that I need. I’ve tried explaining how I need to be loved, but my husband doesn’t seem to care or respond. His way of showing love feels rough and not gentle.\\n\\nBefore marriage, we agreed that taking care of one’s appearance is important for the spouse. I only expect basic Sunnah practices like shaving and good oral hygiene. He emphasized this a lot before we married, but in reality, he struggles even to brush his teeth. He might do it once a month unless I remind him, which creates a lot of disgust. I don’t want to kiss him or even look at his mouth. In years of marriage, there has never been a truly intimate kiss.\\n\\nI’ve tried talking to him many times and even suggested counseling. He avoids expressing his dislikes and refuses open conversations, even though what I request is very basic. I admire him as a person and appreciate his Islamic knowledge, but he doesn’t act on it, which affects me deeply. He is not physically abusive and has good qualities, but these specific issues haven’t improved despite years of trying.\\n\\nDo you have any advice?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Nobody's perfect, but everyone can strive to be better. What you’re asking of him isn’t difficult, it just takes a little self-discipline and care to form a simple routine.\\n\\nGently remind him that Islam places great value on cleanliness and that the Prophet ﷺ emphasized the rights of spouses toward one another, including maintaining good manners and hygiene.\\n\\nPraise the good you see in him and show appreciation for his efforts, while encouraging him to improve in what he’s neglecting. Help him understand that these things matter to you, not because you’re demanding, but because they affect your comfort and the health of the relationship.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ffb0b76658b4c232ade","tag":"Marriage: Roles and Responsibilities","count":56},{"_id":"66df51d76df6cc867de7a6ca","tag":"Marriage: Intimacy and Conception","count":39}],"createdOn":"2025-11-13T21:19:49.379Z"}