{"_id":"69039b1e395e1d25347a82e2","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can one balance making effort and having tawakkul when something may or may not be meant for them, such as in marriage?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Imam al-Shāfiʿī said, “My heart is at ease knowing what was meant for me will never miss me, and what will miss me was never meant for me.”\\n\\nI know this applies broadly in Islam, but when it comes to matters like marriage, how do we find the balance between making an effort - such as addressing traditional expectations or convincing parents - and accepting when something is or isn’t meant for us? I want to let go of a situation, trusting that if it is meant for me, it will return, but I’m struggling to decide whether I should make more effort toward achieving the outcome I desire.\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Serenity comes when we know we have done our part and then place our trust fully in Allah. If our hearts remain anxious about the outcome, it means we have not yet surrendered it to Him. This is the essence of tawakkul; to strive within the bounds of what is reasonable and within our capacity, and then to let go. When our hearts grow restless, or when we begin to compromise our principles or emotional well-being for the sake of an outcome, it is a sign that there is no longer tawakkul, but attachment to the means.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0320b76658b4c2330a7","tag":"Worship: Tazkiyyah","count":87}],"createdOn":"2025-10-30T17:06:38.364Z"}