{"_id":"68debc311d8cf326ae283ddf","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Why do some women seek men’s attention, and how can they be helped to stop?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"There is someone close to me who loves to get attention from men. Is there an Islamic explanation for why women desire this, and is there a way for me to help her stop trying to get men’s attention?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"One of the psychological struggles some women face is tying their sense of worth to how much attention they receive, especially from men. Modern culture, advertising, and social media constantly reinforce the idea that a woman’s value lies in how attractive she is and how many people desire her. This creates a cycle of insecurity: the more attention she gets, the more she craves it, and if she doesn’t get it, she feels worthless. Alhamdulillah for Islamic guidance, such as the command not to display beauty to non-mahram men, which frees women from that unhealthy cycle. It shifts the measure of worth away from men’s eyes to Allah’s sight. Her dignity and honor are protected by making her self-worth independent of external validation.\\n\\nIslamic modesty removes the pressure to always perform or impress. A woman does not have to worry about competing for attention, about whether people find her attractive enough, or about losing value as she ages. Instead, her focus turns inward: on her character, piety, knowledge, and the inner qualities that endure. This shift brings a woman greater peace of mind and stability.\\n\\nSeeking attention often creates jealousy, broken trust, and shallow interactions. By discouraging women from displaying themselves for male attention, Islam preserves the woman’s emotional energy for meaningful relationships such as marriage, family, and genuine friendships, rather than wasting it on fleeting validation.\\n\\nThe Prophet ﷺ said: \"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"“The world is a provision, and the best provision of the world is a righteous woman.” (Muslim, 1467)\"},{\"insert\":\". This hadith teaches us that a woman’s greatest value is not in her outward display but in her righteousness and character. When a woman embraces that, she gains a deep sense of security: she doesn’t need to chase after glances.\\n\\nYou can help her by first reminding her, with compassion, that her true value comes from Allah, not from the gaze of men. Then, encourage her to seek healthier outlets for fulfillment, such as joining circles of knowledge, developing meaningful skills, and pursuing hobbies that bring her joy and growth. As you do so, acknowledge her natural need for love, but guide her to seek it through Allah and halal paths rather than flimsy and fleeting human approval. Finally, be a steady and positive presence in her life by offering sincere friendship, respect, and encouragement, so that she feels genuinely valued and supported without having to depend on external validation.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9fde0b76658b4c232779","tag":"Women: Modesty","count":60},{"_id":"668d9fe00b76658b4c2327ba","tag":"Women: Beauty","count":54},{"_id":"668d9fe00b76658b4c2327c8","tag":"Women: Other","count":52}],"createdOn":"2025-10-02T17:53:53.454Z"}