{"_id":"68c1a208846ef2d5aea53661","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Is it permissible for a husband to secretly go through his wife’s phone?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I have nothing to hide on my phone, but I don’t let my husband go through it because I have private conversations with friends and family that aren’t his business. I also have pictures with family and friends without hijab. He assumes I’m doing things or talking to other people on social media, which isn’t true. If he had openly asked to look at my social media, I would have let him, but instead he randomly asks for my phone, which I refuse.\\n\\nLast night I woke up to find my phone missing from the nightstand. I found him in the living room, and though he denied it,  I realized that he had lied to me about not having it because I found it between the couch cushions of where we was sitting. I discovered he had gone through my phone and even redownloaded a social media app I had deleted. I never gave him my password, so I don’t know how he got in.\\n\\nThis makes me question my relationship, since I feel disrespected and spied on. If he had just asked openly, I would have shown him. What is the ruling on his actions? How can I resolve this issue of trust and boundaries?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What you describe falls under tajassus (spying), which is not permissible in Islam. Allah says:\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"“O Believers, avoid being excessively suspicious, for some suspicion is a sin. Do not spy, nor backbite one another. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would surely detest it. Have fear of Allah. Surely Allah is much prone to accept repentance, is Most Compassionate.\\\" \"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://quran.com/49/12\",\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"[49:12]\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nEven when there are doubts or suspicions, the Shariah does not allow one spouse to secretly go through the private belongings of the other.\\n\\nThat being said, your husband’s actions are a sign of deep insecurity and mistrust. These issues are not solved by searching through phones, but through honest and respectful conversation. I strongly advise that you both seek marriage counseling.\\n\\nMay Allah grant you both peace.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9fe10b76658b4c2327dc","tag":"Marriage: Other","count":62},{"_id":"668da0150b76658b4c232daf","tag":"Relationships: Spouse","count":42}],"createdOn":"2025-09-10T16:06:32.378Z"}