{"_id":"686ebe05557419c0f84be9d5","title":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Are these pre-marital questions permissible to ask?\"}]}]}}","question":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"I'm currently in the process of getting to know a potential spouse. We're keeping our meetings formal and professional, with a third-party present to preserve Islamic guidelines and avoid unnecessary emotional attachments. At this time, I have a deep concern about emotional compatibility. I want to feel safe being emotionally open in marriage, and I need to know that my future spouse has the ability to recognize, understand, and regulate his emotions, and that he can also hold space for someone else’s emotional experience.\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"With this in mind, I’d like to ask whether it is appropriate and permissible to ask more personal, emotionally-focused questions during this process, while still maintaining proper boundaries. For example, would it be acceptable to ask questions like:\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Can you describe a time when someone close to you was going through something difficult — how did you support them?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"What helps you feel emotionally connected to someone?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"How do you usually express care or concern for someone you love?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Are you comfortable expressing affection? If so, how?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Have you ever been in a situation where you had to apologize or take accountability? What was that like for you?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"list\",\"attrs\":{\"kind\":\"bullet\",\"order\":null,\"checked\":false,\"collapsed\":false},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"How comfortable are you with expressing your emotions, whether that’s sadness, vulnerability, or even joy?\"}]}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"Are these questions permissible to ask?\"}]}]}}","answer":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"These questions are permissible to ask. \"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"text\":\"May Allah ﷻ facilitate what is best for the both of you, with ease.\"}]}]}}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a6","tag":"Marriage: Pre-Marriage","count":72},{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a9","tag":"Relationships: Potential Spouse","count":45}],"createdOn":"2025-07-09T19:07:49.893Z"}