{"_id":"6861f49984e9783428661c00","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can the Quran call men be \\\"the protectors and maintainers of women\\\" when some men cause women to suffer?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"It is hard for me to make peace with the fact that Allah has made men the supposed “protectors and maintainers of women”, only to see my sisters around the world suffering at the hands of men, from sexual abuse to murder, from the USA all the way to the tiniest, remote islands. They are our biggest predators. We’re scared of them. I’m scared for my own siblings every time they leave the house, and I’m supposed to believe these pieces of trash are supposed to protect and maintain us when they hate us just for being women???\\n\\nI hate men. I hate how they’re dignified in Islam. I can’t even begin to express how much I despise men, how much they scare me, and how angry they make me. It’s the majority of men who are the cause of women’s suffering. So how, sheikh, am I supposed to look upon them and respect them when they don’t respect us? How do I let go of this deep hatred I have for their entire gender?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Islam gives dignity to both men and women based on their righteousness, not their gender. When Allah says men are “protectors and maintainers of women,” it is a responsibility, not a privilege. It means they are accountable before Allah to provide, support, and protect; and if they fail, they will be questioned and punished.\\n\\nThis role does not make men superior to women, just as motherhood doesn’t make women superior to men. Honor in Islam is based on taqwa (God-consciousness), not gender.\\n\\nYes, many crimes against women are committed by men, but not all men are oppressors. Islam never justifies injustice, and it never asks you to respect those who abuse their power. But hating an entire gender is unjust in itself. Hatred may feel justified in the face of pain, but it doesn’t bring healing. It corrodes the heart and blinds us to goodness.\\n\\nAlso, letting go of hatred doesn’t mean letting go of accountability, it means freeing yourself from being consumed by the very thing you despise. You can stand against abuse and seek justice without hardening your heart toward those who haven’t wronged you.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff10b76658b4c2329d2","tag":"Relationships: Opposite Gender","count":80},{"_id":"668d9fe70b76658b4c2328a0","tag":"Quran: Tafseer","count":34},{"_id":"668da0230b76658b4c232f2c","tag":"Men: Other","count":23}],"createdOn":"2025-06-30T02:21:13.557Z"}