{"_id":"684afe690ffe4684719ff2b4","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What should I do if my family opposes me wearing the hijab?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"After a long time of thinking about it and learning, I started wearing the hijab recently. My family - and specifically my parents - hate it! In her anger, my mom threatened to keep me home all summer until I take it off. I know she didn’t mean it, but her anger is real. My dad said that if I’m really religious, I should listen to them because Allah commanded us to listen to our parents. But that would mean taking off my hijab. I’m confused about what to do. They are Muslim, but don’t view the hijab as fardh (they have a complicated relationship with Islam and scholars). I’ve tried to show them evidences for it, but they are resistant still. \\n\\nHow should I prioritize Allah’s commands on hijab and pleasing the parents? Is it worth it to start this war in my home over wearing the hijab for the sake of Allah? Do you have any advice on dealing with family members who are resistant to hijab?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"The hijab is an obligation by scholarly consensus; it is not a matter of debate. If your parents have doubts or reject this ruling, you are not bound by their interpretation, especially when it contradicts what the scholars of Islam have unanimously conveyed and what the ummah has practiced throughout history.\\n\\nYes, Allah has commanded us to honor and obey our parents, but He has also commanded them, and all believers, to obey Him. Our duty to our parents is conditional upon their commands not contradicting Allah’s laws. The Prophet ﷺ said: \"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"“There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.”  \"},{\"insert\":\"So, if your parents ask you to remove your hijab, you are not sinful for refusing; on the contrary, you would be sinful if you obeyed them in that matter.\\n\\nThat said, this does not mean you should argue with them or return their anger with defiance. Stay calm, respectful, and consistent. Avoid debate. Continue to fulfill your duties toward them with love and kindness. Let your actions, your patience, character, and dignity, speak louder than your words. In time, they may come to see that your hijab is not a rejection of them, but a reflection of your sincerity, growth, and devotion to Allah.\\n\\nIt is absolutely worth enduring some family tension in order to protect your own soul and stay firm on what Allah has commanded, for your own good, not His.\\n\\nRemember, you are not “fighting” them; you are lovingly and respectfully committing yourself to something that Allah has obligated upon you. This is your test. Remain humble. Pray that Allah softens their hearts and brings peace to your home. Don’t let their reaction make you second-guess your obedience to your Lord. Avoid confrontations. Keep wearing your hijab with quiet confidence. And make sure to surround yourself with supportive, righteous companions who can help you stay firm and grounded.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111},{"_id":"668d9fde0b76658b4c23277f","tag":"Women: Hijab","count":30}],"createdOn":"2025-06-12T16:20:57.748Z"}