{"_id":"682cdd0193563519c0afd928","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What should a woman do if she’s afraid of marriage because her parents are old?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What should a woman do if she’s afraid of marrying someone because her parents are old or have no one to take care of them? What should the woman do, and what if she DOES get married and her husband forbids her from seeing her old aged parents? Would she still have to listen to her husband?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"If a woman has a need or desire for marriage, she should not feel guilty for pursuing it, even if her parents are elderly or dependent on her. However, she must be honest and upfront with any potential spouse about her duty to her parents. If he cannot respect that, then he is not the right person to marry.\\n\\nImām al-Shāfiʿī said: \"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"“I do not like for him to prevent her from doing so.”\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nImām al-Ḥaramayn (al-Juwaynī) explained\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"“What Imām al-Shāfiʿī intended here is that he does not like for a husband to go to such extremes—for that is an excess that leads to the severing of kinship ties. Moreover, it causes the wife to resent her husband and grow averse to him. Life then becomes bitter between them, and the matter may end in the severance of the marriage. The proper path is to maintain moderation in all affairs.”\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\nMy personal advice: If she chooses to marry, she should include a clear stipulation in the marriage contract that she reserves the right to care for and visit her parents regularly. If the husband violates this condition, she retains the right to annul the marriage. Stipulations like this are valid and binding according to the Ḥanbalī school of jurisprudence.\\n\\nRelated question: \"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://www.carolinaqa.com/q/66df527c6df6cc867de7a6d5\"},\"insert\":\"https://www.carolinaqa.com/q/66df527c6df6cc867de7a6d5\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111},{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a6","tag":"Marriage: Pre-Marriage","count":68},{"_id":"668d9ffb0b76658b4c232ade","tag":"Marriage: Roles and Responsibilities","count":56},{"_id":"66df527b6df6cc867de7a6d3","tag":"Marriage: Contract","count":11}],"createdOn":"2025-05-20T19:50:25.167Z"}