{"_id":"67f29d77e9991f92908146c4","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"⁠I am an adult women with children. My mother has had multiple marriages and when I was a young girl, her spouse at the time was molesting me. Now as an adult, my mother is married to a different man that I have never met as she lives in a different country. Am I obligated to talk to her husband and keep ties with him? \\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I am an adult women with children. My mother has had multiple marriages and when I was a young girl, her spouse at the time was molesting me. Now as an adult, my mother is married to a different man that I have never met as she lives in a different country. Am I obligated to talk to her husband and keep ties with him?\\n\\n I understand in Islam he is my mahram, but my past experience with my stepfather does not make me comfortable with stepfathers.\\n\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"May Allah grant you healing and protect you and your children. You are not obligated to have any relationship with your mother's husband. While Islamically, a stepfather is considered a mahram, that does not mean you must engage with him if it makes you uncomfortable, especially given your past trauma. Your well-being, emotional safety, and personal boundaries are important.  \\n\\nMaintaining ties with your mother does not require you to interact with her husband. If avoiding him completely gives you peace of mind, that is your right. You can choose the level of interaction that feels safe for you, whether that means only speaking to your mother directly or setting clear boundaries about not being in his presence. Islam does not require you to put yourself in distressing situations, and your past experiences are valid reasons to establish those limits. May Allah bring you ease and comfort.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"66e8cfa460e2a2b1e32a5bae","tag":"Mahram","count":6},{"_id":"67f29d77e9991f92908146c2","tag":"Stepfather","count":1}],"createdOn":"2025-04-06T15:27:51.774Z"}