{"_id":"67f29d2ae9991f92908146b9","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can one genuinely make sure they love Allah more than their loved ones, such as their husband?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can one genuinely make sure they love Allah more than their loved ones, such as their husband? I’m worried my strong feelings for my spouse may be excessive and I am putting him above Allah in my heart. \\n\\nWhen I think of anything bad happening between us it grieves me to the point I sometimes don’t even feel at peace during my Ibadah. \\n\\nHow do I detach in a healthy way and make sure Allah is always number 1 in my heart? What are practical steps I can take towards only relying emotionally on Allah, filling my heart with him, and not having an unhealthy attachment to my spouse?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"This is a deeply sincere and beautiful concern, and may Allah reward you for wanting to keep your heart in the right place. Loving your husband is natural and even encouraged in Islam, but the key is making sure that your love for Allah is always greater and at the center of your life.  \\n\\nOne of the first steps is to remind yourself that all love ultimately comes from Allah. Your husband and the love you have for him is a blessing from Allah, and your love for him should be a means to get closer to Allah, not a distraction from Him. When you feel your emotions becoming overwhelming, take a moment to redirect your heart back to Allah by making duʿāʾ: \\\"O Allah, let my love for everything be for Your sake and let my attachment be to You alone.\\\"  \\n\\nAnother way to strengthen your love for Allah is to see Him as the source of every blessing in your life and as the refuge for every tribulation. Your husband, your marriage, and every good moment you experience are all from Him. When hardship comes, it is only Allah who can provide relief. The more you internalize this, the more your heart will naturally incline toward Him as your ultimate source of security, love, and comfort.  \\n\\nA practical way to ensure that Allah remains your greatest love is to deepen your connection with Him through knowledge and remembrance. The more you learn about Allah’s names and attributes, the more your heart will be filled with awe and longing for Him. Engage in dhikr frequently, especially in moments of distress—saying lā ilāha illa Allāh with contemplation can remind you that nothing in this world is truly permanent except Him.  \\n\\nAnother important step is to recognize that every relationship in this world is temporary. Your husband, no matter how beloved, is part of the dunya, and your ultimate journey is toward Allah. When you start feeling excessive worry about losing him, shift your focus to the reality that the only relationship that will truly last is your bond with your Creator.  \\n\\nTo maintain emotional balance, practice emotional reliance on Allah first. When something troubles you, make it a habit to turn to Him before turning to your husband. Pour your heart out in duʿāʾ, seeking comfort from Allah before seeking comfort from creation.  \\n\\nFinally, nurture your personal acts of worship beyond just the obligatory. Pray extra rakʿāt when you feel overwhelmed, read the Qurʾān with reflection, and spend time in solitude with Allah. These moments will reinforce in your heart that your greatest source of peace and security comes from Him alone.  \\n\\nIt’s not about loving your husband less; it’s about loving him through Allah, making your relationship a means of drawing closer to Him rather than something that consumes your heart. May Allah grant you balance, tranquility, and a love for Him that surpasses all else.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"67f29d2ae9991f92908146b7","tag":"Marriage.","count":3},{"_id":"67f29d2ae9991f92908146b4","tag":"Love for Allah.","count":1}],"createdOn":"2025-04-06T15:26:34.173Z"}