{"_id":"676c9716744ca1ad0327727d","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"What should I do if my husband’s porn addiction is ruining our marriage and my self-esteem?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I’ve been married over a year and have been struggling from the beginning. I found out that my husband has a porn addiction and prefers to masturbate by himself to having sex with me. When I confronted him, he confessed that he’s been dealing with this since he was 13 years old and said to me that it takes him much less effort to pleasure himself through masturbation than having sex with me.\\n\\nWhen we do have sex, he doesn’t want to arouse me and wants to get directly to the act. I addressed my discomfort with him several times and he always refuses to work on it and just decides to ghost me. He also claims that I am attacking him. I need advice on what is required of me because I feel very exhausted mentally and physiologically.\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I’m truly sorry to hear about the struggles you’re facing, and may Allah ease your difficulty and guide both you and your husband to what is best for your marriage.\\n\\nPornography addiction is a serious issue that can deeply affect an individual’s mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, as well as the marital relationship. It’s important to address this matter with wisdom and patience, but also with a firm understanding of the seriousness of the situation.\\n\\nFirst and foremost, I encourage you to seek help from a qualified counselor or therapist who specializes in dealing with addictions, particularly pornography addiction. This is a matter that often requires professional intervention to help your husband overcome his addiction and to assist both of you in rebuilding trust and intimacy in your marriage.\\n\\nFrom an Islamic perspective, it is important to remind your husband that pornography and masturbation are harmful and forbidden. They not only damage one’s relationship with Allah but also with one’s spouse. Allah has made the marital relationship a source of tranquility and mercy, and it should be nurtured with love, respect, and mutual care.\\n\\nYour husband’s refusal to engage in healthy sexual relations and his dismissive attitude towards your concerns are troubling and need to be addressed. As a wife, you have rights in Islam, including the right to emotional and physical fulfillment within the marriage. It is not permissible for him to neglect these rights or to ignore your well-being.\\n\\nYou have already made efforts to address this with him, which shows your commitment to the marriage. However, if he continues to refuse help and does not take steps to change, you may need to consider seeking further guidance, possibly from a Muslim marriage counselor, who can provide support and mediate the situation.\\n\\nIt is also important to protect your own mental and emotional health. If you feel mentally and physically exhausted, it’s crucial to take care of yourself and seek support from trusted family members, friends, or professionals who can help you navigate this difficult time.\\n\\nIn situations like this, making du’a and seeking Allah’s help is essential. Continue to ask Allah for guidance, patience, and strength, and trust that He will guide you to what is best. Remember that Allah is the Most Merciful and that He understands the pain and difficulty you are going through.\\n\\nFinally, know that in Islam, your well-being is important. If the situation does not improve and continues to harm you, it may be necessary to consider whether the marriage is fulfilling its intended purpose in Islam, which is to be a source of comfort, support, and love for both spouses. If it is not, then seeking a resolution, whether through reconciliation or separation, is something that Islam permits in order to protect the well-being of the individual.\\n\\nMay Allah grant you ease, strength, and guidance in this difficult time, and may He bring about a resolution that is best for your deen and your dunya.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"66df51d76df6cc867de7a6ca","tag":"Marriage: Intimacy and Conception","count":39},{"_id":"668d9fe20b76658b4c232800","tag":"Women: Sexual Health","count":36},{"_id":"668d9fef0b76658b4c232995","tag":"Men: Sexual Health","count":25},{"_id":"676c9716744ca1ad0327727b","tag":"Pornography","count":1}],"createdOn":"2024-12-25T23:36:54.448Z"}