{"_id":"676acbef631b2ecff5b5cbef","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Is it okay to dislike the hijab and prayer if you continue to dress modestly and pray?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Recently, I have been feeling an increase in thoughts such as “I don’t feel beautiful in the hijab, yet I still wear” or “I dislike praying, but I still pray” or “it’s okay to dislike acts of worship like the hijab and prayer, as long as you do them and know that they are commandments.”\\n\\nGranted, the root of these is the understanding that they are commandments and believing in their purpose. One might even say that it’s Jihad Al-Nafs. However, would one be correct in thinking and feeling this way? How could I address thoughts like these? Would this lead to other issues if left to continue?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"It's understandable to encounter feelings of struggle and discomfort with certain acts of worship, such as wearing the hijab or performing prayers. These feelings are a part of the spiritual journey and can be seen as a form of jihad al-nafs (struggle against one's self). However, it's important to address these feelings constructively to prevent potential negative consequences.\\n\\nIt's essential to recognize that acts of worship are commandments from Allah (SWT), and their primary purpose is to bring us closer to Him. Struggling with these acts doesn't necessarily mean a lack of faith; rather, it can indicate a need for deeper understanding and connection.\\n\\nWith that said, here are some ways to address these feelings and conversations:\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"1.⁠ ⁠Acknowledge the Struggle: \"},{\"insert\":\"\\nIt's important to validate the feelings of struggle. Acknowledging that it's normal to feel this way at times can provide comfort and reassurance.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"2.⁠ ⁠Seek Knowledge: \"},{\"insert\":\"\\nUnderstanding the wisdom and purpose behind these acts of worship can help alleviate negative feelings. Encourage learning about the spiritual, psychological, and societal benefits of practices like hijab and prayer.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"3.⁠ ⁠Focus on the Spiritual Aspect: \"},{\"insert\":\"\\nRemind yourself and others that the ultimate goal of worship is to attain closeness to Allah (SWT). Acts of worship should not be seen merely as obligations but as opportunities to strengthen our relationship with our Creator.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"4.⁠ ⁠Build a Supportive Environment:\"},{\"insert\":\"\\nSurround yourself with a supportive community that encourages and uplifts each other in their spiritual journeys. Positive reinforcement and shared experiences can make a significant difference.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"5.⁠ ⁠Engage in Personal Reflection: \"},{\"insert\":\"\\nRegularly reflect on your intentions and the reasons behind your worship. Journaling or discussing with a trusted mentor can help clarify and solidify your motivations.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"6.⁠ ⁠Practice Patience and Perseverance: \"},{\"insert\":\"\\nSpiritual growth is a gradual process. Patience and persistence are key. Celebrate small victories and progress in your spiritual journey.\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"7.⁠ ⁠Some Practical Tips You Can Share:\"},{\"insert\":\"\\nEliminate distractions (electronics, noise, etc.) beginning at the time of wudu.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"Spend a few minutes making adhkar before the prayer to focus the heart and mind. Remind yourself that the prayer is a mercy and relief from this dunya. As reported in a Sahih Hadith, our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ used to tell Bilal to make the adhan to give them comfort.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"During the prayer, think about the words you are reciting and the One you are praying to.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"After praying, do not rush to go on to the next chore of the day. Make duaa and be present with Allah ﷻ. Train your heart to love the prayer and find comfort in its serenity. Without slowing down, it’s almost impossible to do this.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"Try and start this with one prayer and slowly work your way up to make it a habit.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"list\":\"bullet\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"\\nBy addressing these feelings constructively, you can prevent them from leading to greater spiritual or psychological challenges. It’s important to continuously seek Allah’s (SWT) guidance and make dua for strength and understanding. Remember, the struggle itself can be a means of gaining immense rewards and drawing closer to Allah (SWT).\\n\\nMay Allah (SWT) guide us all and grant us the strength to overcome our struggles in His path. Ameen.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff20b76658b4c2329d9","tag":"Worship: Intention","count":103},{"_id":"668d9fff0b76658b4c232b60","tag":"Worship: Other","count":54},{"_id":"668d9fde0b76658b4c23277f","tag":"Women: Hijab","count":30},{"_id":"676acbef631b2ecff5b5cbed","tag":"Struggle","count":2}],"createdOn":"2024-12-24T14:57:51.831Z"}