{"_id":"676a1caa32bfcaa23a80ba60","title":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"background\":\"transparent\",\"color\":\"#000000\"}}}],\"text\":\"How can I get over my past haram relationship as I look towards marriage?\"}]}]}}","question":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}}],\"text\":\"When I was not practicing, I met a person with whom I experienced many great memories. I eventually realized the dangers of this haram relationship and broke it off completely years ago. I don't text them, look them up, or ask about them. But I do think about them very often and pray for their guidance. I doubt I will ever marry this person because I long since moved away.\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}}],\"text\":\"As I look to get married in the future, how harmful is this situation to my future marriage? Should I try to get over these feelings before getting married? How can I get over them?  \"}]}]}}","answer":"{\"format\":\"prosemirror\",\"schemaVersion\":1,\"doc\":{\"type\":\"doc\",\"content\":[{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}}],\"text\":\"The strides you've made are undoubtedly on the right path, and you should express gratitude to Allah for guiding you in this direction. Seek from Him a life partner to complete your deen.\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}}],\"text\":\"Strive to leave these emotions behind and progress in your life. Avoid dwelling on the past. When these thoughts surface, redirect your focus toward seeking a future partner and establishing a family. Remember that those memories and feelings emerged from a relationship that was displeasing to your Lord. Hence, ask Allah to grant you emotions and memories born out of a lawful, God-pleasing relationship. Seek assistance from Allah ﷻ to overcome these emotions, reflecting on the teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ: \"},{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}},{\"type\":\"italic\"}],\"text\":\"“Indeed, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah, the Almighty, but that Allah will replace it with something better.” [Musnad of Ahmad]\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null}},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}}],\"text\":\"Reflect, too, on the words of Allah ﷻ:\"}]},{\"type\":\"paragraph\",\"attrs\":{\"quillBlock\":{},\"quillNewline\":{},\"quillTerminated\":true,\"direction\":null},\"content\":[{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}},{\"type\":\"bold\"}],\"text\":\"\\\"It may well be that you hate something, and it is better for you, and may well be that you love something, and it is worse for you; and Allah knows, while you know not.\\\" [\"},{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}},{\"type\":\"link\",\"attrs\":{\"href\":\"https://quran.com/2/216\",\"target\":null,\"rel\":null}},{\"type\":\"bold\"}],\"text\":\"Quran 2:216\"},{\"type\":\"text\",\"marks\":[{\"type\":\"quillStyle\",\"attrs\":{\"value\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"}}},{\"type\":\"bold\"}],\"text\":\"]\"}]}]}}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff10b76658b4c2329d2","tag":"Relationships: Opposite Gender","count":90},{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a6","tag":"Marriage: Pre-Marriage","count":72}],"createdOn":"2024-12-24T02:30:02.762Z"}