{"_id":"67685162fe32f8cc1e297bec","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Can I collaborate with someone I have strong feelings for?\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"background\":\"transparent\",\"color\":\"#000000\"},\"insert\":\"Early in college, I started liking someone in my Muslim community that I was giving dawah with and I increasingly spent more time with them. After a few months, I realized to continue like this was wrong, and so I stopped most of our one-on-one contact. We're currently involved in Muslims organizations together. Is it appropriate to continue collaborating for these purposes, knowing that I still have strong feelings? Also, is there any advice on how to do this? I find myself wanting to talk together and struggling to balance total avoidance versus having unnecessary, lengthy conversations in group settings.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Your thoughts and sentiments are commendable, alhamdulillah. If your affection for the sister is sincere, you should take the right step by considering marriage. In the event that marriage is not currently feasible, it becomes imperative to safeguard her by maintaining distance, even if you cannot find an alternative project that holds a similar impact.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Continuing to be in close proximity to her, especially when you acknowledge having feelings for her without a lawful avenue to express or realize these emotions, does not demonstrate true love for her; rather, it can be perceived as a self-centered approach. True love entails preventing any situation where she might be compromised or experience harm. Love, in its essence, involves self-sacrifice, not jeopardizing the well-being of your beloved.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"There is a story involving a female servant of Ali ibn Abi Talib and a young man that was caretaker of a masjid close to imam Ali's house. The young man would tell her that he loves her whenever she passed by the masjid. She never responded to him or acknowledged him. After a while, she became annoyed by what this man was doing so she mentioned it to imam Ali. He told her that the next time this happens, tell him that you also love him and then ask him what he wants to do next. \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"The next time it happened she did exactly what Imam Ali told her. The man's response was, \\\"We remain patient until Allah judges between us.\\\" She told Imam Ali what the man said, and it pleased Imam Ali because the man's answer was what Imam Ali was looking for. He wanted to see if the man was truthful about his claim or if he just wanted to indulge in lowly behavior. Imam Ali called the young man over and said to him, \\\"Take her to you, for Allah has judged between you.\\\"\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff10b76658b4c2329d2","tag":"Relationships: Opposite Gender","count":80},{"_id":"66eaeffe5a6d6a041dfdb134","tag":"College Campus","count":2},{"_id":"67685162fe32f8cc1e297bea","tag":"Dawaa.","count":1}],"createdOn":"2024-12-22T17:50:26.565Z"}