{"_id":"674b77d2fbb8e625bcf5c386","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"What is the Islamic way of dealing with my resentment towards my mother for the hurt she has caused me?\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Mothers are given such a high status in Islam. Their duaas for their children are powerful. It is best to treat them with the utmost respect and love. However, my mother has a mood disorder and sometimes small things can set her off. She has told me such hurtful things growing up and to this day I hold so much resentment, telling me things such as to kill myself, that I’m not a horrible kid, etc. I have never done drugs, dated, or illegal stuff. As I got older, I really tried to be as patient as I could with her, and I was tested. \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"When I started reading more Quran, she saw this and whenever she was upset with me she would say stuff like, ‘May God never accept the Quran you read, May He not accept your prayers’ even going as far as to tell me to go to hell. She does this to my little siblings too. \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"I’ve recently been spiraling and lost motivation to do any extra forms of ibadat because I have a hard time believing anything will be accepted from me. I’ve just been praying my salah and doing the mandatory things. My iman feels so depleted, I feel like there is no point in trying to be a good Muslim when anything that ticks off my mother makes her make bad duaa on me and my siblings. My siblings also feel this way. We don’t know what to do. \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"As I tried to get closer to God, I feel so ashamed. When I hear her make these bad duaa, I feel like it’s hopeless for me to even try. You may be thinking “what did this kid do to set off their parent?” Unfortunately, she is triggered by things as small as the wrong sized bowl for food. I have so much resentment for her, myself, and May God protect me because I’m losing my love for my deen. I know Islam is beautiful, but it has been used against me so much it has become a weapon.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Rely on the One who gave such high status to mothers. Persist in your dedication to the path of Allah despite your mother's bouts of negativity. Instead of pitying yourself, empathize with your mother, recognizing that those who express negativity are often consumed by it—a truly sorrowful state. Be\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\",\"underline\":true},\"insert\":\" assured that your destiny isn't controlled by your mother or any other individual; it rests solely in Allah's hands.\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\" Your endeavor to be a dutiful son or daughter is rooted in your aspiration to be an exemplary Muslim. Even if your efforts go unnoticed or unacknowledged by your mother, remember that Allah surely sees and appreciates them. \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"My advice to you is to prioritize your relationship with Allah—the most significant bond in your life—and strive to be an exemplary servant of Allah by being a devoted son.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"When faced with negativity or criticism, turn to Allah and say\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\",\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\", \\\"O Allah, I seek to please You alone, the Most Compassionate and Loving.\\\" \"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"If your efforts aren't appreciated and you're met with disapproval, turn to Allah and say, \"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\",\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"\\\"O Allah, my reward comes solely from You, the Most Appreciative.\\\" \"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"color\":\"#000000\",\"background\":\"transparent\"},\"insert\":\"Life tests us all in various ways, and undoubtedly, this is a trial for you. Embrace the challenge and implore Allah for success; the reward will undoubtedly be immense.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\n\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"674afe88464c60e236b74155","tag":"Tests","count":5},{"_id":"67081d707dc1092006704be2","tag":"Tribulations","count":3},{"_id":"67225ed9f809463c0a046ae6","tag":"Hopelessness","count":2},{"_id":"674b77d2fbb8e625bcf5c384","tag":"Family Conflict","count":2}],"createdOn":"2024-11-30T20:38:42.347Z"}