{"_id":"66fda1707e2f6b4cc609a8fd","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Is a child held accountable for backbiting if their parents vent and and talk ill of each other to them?\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"My parents don’t like each other and tend to rant to me about why the other is “terrible” very often. It’s been this way since I have been young and now I’m an adult and still always hearing about why one parent or the other is “evil”. I used to say whatever to make them feel like I understand them just so they can feel at ease and stop complaining, but now I am worried that this is actually backbiting? If I don’t speak or say anything my mother gets very upset thinking that I’m against her, and she will even try to have me agree that my father is xyz. Am I backbiting and sinning by even listening to them? If I say I don’t want to backbite they both don’t take me seriously and say “it’s not backbiting it’s just true!” Or bring up that I “never cared about that before so why now” and they become annoyed with me. Should I repent for even engaging in these conversations for all these years? Im so worried I may have said things that are considered exposing or backbiting one of my parents, and I can’t even apologize or tell them because I know they will never let that go. I’m not sure what to do.\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Pray to Allah to bring their hearts together and draw very clear boundaries with both of them that you will not listen to any one them talking bad about the other. Be respectful but stern about it. If they say why now, tell them you learned that it is sinful to listen to someone backbite another person. Explain to them that you are not in a position to change the situation and that you want to love them and respect them both. Tell them that if they love you as a son, then they should not put you in this position. Explain to them that in addition to it being sinful, it is emotionally taxing. As for what you might have said about any one of them in the past, do not reveal it to them. Instead, ask Allah for forgiveness, pray for them, and if you are able, donate something on their behalf to make up for it.\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111},{"_id":"668d9ff70b76658b4c232a7b","tag":"Worship: Sins","count":100},{"_id":"668da0150b76658b4c232daf","tag":"Relationships: Spouse","count":42}],"createdOn":"2024-10-02T19:39:28.335Z"}