{"_id":"66fb036ec58213b484d7c6cd","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"How can one retract curses against themselves in the heat of a moment? How can one properly channel feelings of shame?\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"I have a bad habit of cursing myself when I make mistakes out of shame. In my head I say phrases like “may you be cursed,” and “may you be condemned” repeatedly. Sometimes I verbalize these words and occasionally I have said Ameen. This is done in the heat of the moment and I don’t truly hope to be cursed. Should I fear for these curses to be answered? How can I retract them? How can I properly channel feelings of shame?\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Even in moments of frustration, cursing yourself is harmful and counterproductive. If your mistakes are indeed sins, it's important to address them with a positive approach. Instead of self-condemnation, focus on seeking mercy and forgiveness. Consider adopting self-discipline through constructive actions. For instance, if you enjoy something like Boba tea, you could choose to give it up temporarily as a form of discipline for your mistakes. Alternatively, you might direct your energy toward additional acts of worship, such as performing extra prayers, reading more of the Quran, or making charitable donations. These positive actions can help you manage feelings of shame in a healthier way and encourage a more compassionate attitude towards yourself.\\n\\nHowever, if your mistakes are unintentional or inadvertent, there's no need for shame or self-discipline. Instead, remind yourself to be more cautious in the future.\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ff70b76658b4c232a7b","tag":"Worship: Sins","count":100},{"_id":"668d9ff20b76658b4c2329f4","tag":"Worship: Repentance","count":63},{"_id":"668d9fe30b76658b4c232823","tag":"Worship: Remembrance","count":40}],"createdOn":"2024-09-30T20:00:46.920Z"}