{"_id":"668da0820b76658b4c233916","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Should one obey their parents even if they prevent them from following a Sunnah?\\n\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"My parents prevent me from wearing black or dark colored abayas and hijab in public. They prevent me from wearing niqab too. They have also gotten mad at my brother for wearing a thobe to a grocery store or from wanting to grow back his long hair/beard that he had when we lived in the Middle East. Since these are just Sunnah acts (not obligations), should we just listen to our parents since obeying one's parents is an obligation?\\n\\nTheir argument is that this is لبس شهرة and that it would give the image that we are terrorists. What is classified as لبس شهرة (presenting one's self in a way that contradicts the norm of one's society)? Is it haram if it is done with the intention of fulfilling a sunnah? Are my parents right in these matters? Should my brother and I fear Allah and stick to just obligations in public (keeping to the minimum hijab requirements for myself and keeping a trimmed beard and short hair for my brother)?\\n\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"It sounds like your parents are concerned for your safety, which is understandable. As you know, obeying parents is obligatory as long as it stays within the boundaries of what is permissible and does not involve disobedience to Allah.\\nAllah ﷻ says, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (\"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://quran.com/en/al-isra/23\"},\"insert\":\"Quran 17:23\"},{\"insert\":\"). \\nThis emphasizes the importance of treating parents with kindness and respect. \\n\\nRegarding wearing black, it is not a Shariah obligation to wear a specific color; colors are more cultural than religious. The Shariah requires that clothing should not be excessively dressy or extravagant by local customs, such as red in certain cultures. \\nAllah ﷻ says, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"O children of Adam, take your adornment at every masjid, and eat and drink, but be not excessive. Indeed, He likes not those who commit excess\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (\"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://quran.com/en/al-araf/31\"},\"insert\":\"Quran 7:31\"},{\"insert\":\"). \\nThis verse highlights the importance of modesty and avoiding excess. \\n\\nAs for the niqab, whether it is obligatory is a matter of dispute among scholars. \\nThe Quran instructs women to dress modestly, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"bold\":true},\"insert\":\"O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (\"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://quran.com/en/al-ahzab/59\"},\"insert\":\"Quran 33:59\"},{\"insert\":\"). \\nThis emphasizes modesty but leaves room for interpretation on specific practices like the niqab. \\n\\nFor your brother wearing a thobe, it is not obligatory, so it should not be a matter of dispute between him and your parents. \\nThe Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (\"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://sunnah.com/bukhari:7257\"},\"insert\":\"Bukhari\"},{\"insert\":\" and \"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://sunnah.com/muslim:1840a\"},\"insert\":\"Muslim\"},{\"insert\":\").\\nThis means maintaining balance and understanding in non-obligatory matters. \\n\\nRegarding growing the beard, your brother should seek a compromise since the length of the beard is disputed among scholars. \\nThe Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"Trim the mustache and let the beard grow.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (Bukhari and \"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://sunnah.com/muslim:259a\"},\"insert\":\"Muslim\"},{\"insert\":\"). \\nThis shows the importance of the beard but does not specify a required length. Additionally, your parents should understand that beards are common and not distinct to Muslims alone, making their presence less of a concern. \\n\\nIn conclusion, it is important to respect and obey your parents, especially when their concerns are grounded in genuine care and safety considerations. \\nThe Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said, \\\"\"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of the parent, and the displeasure of Allah lies in the displeasure of the parent.\"},{\"insert\":\"\\\" (\"},{\"attributes\":{\"link\":\"https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:1899\"},\"insert\":\"Tirmidhi\"},{\"insert\":\"). \\nAt the same time, gently express your desire to follow the Sunnah and seek a balanced approach that fulfills your religious commitments while maintaining family harmony and personal safety. \\n\\nMay Allah guide you and your family to what is best and make it easy for you to balance your religious duties with family obligations. Ameen.\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111},{"_id":"668d9fde0b76658b4c23277f","tag":"Women: Hijab","count":30},{"_id":"668da0230b76658b4c232f29","tag":"Men: Facial Hair","count":10}],"createdOn":"2024-07-09T20:41:38.374Z"}