{"_id":"668da05c0b76658b4c233521","title":"What should one do if they are interested in marrying someone but are currently not finacially stable and are concerned they may miss their chance?","question":"I am interested in a sister in the community. Currently, I am not financially stable enough to propose to her family, but I anticipate being so in a few years. In the meantime, would it be permissible or recommended for me to communicate with her family, explaining my situation, my plans, and my intentions, and potentially get engaged if they agree? I am concerned about waiting, as I cannot guarantee that she will still be available for marriage in the future. My fear is that someone else may propose in the meantime. Ultimately, the decision lies with the girl and her family; my aim is solely to make my intentions clear and allow them to decide. I do not wish to leave any loose ends or have any regrets. She always has the option to reject the proposal or agree to it if she is on the same page as me. I have never spoken to her about this matter, which is why I am gathering the courage to take this step in a halal manner.","answer":"Expressing your interest and intentions to the family is permissible, and there's little to lose by doing so. However, if you delay and someone else makes a move, you may regret it. If they accept, thank Allah and prepare yourself. If they decline, remain hopeful; it's not the end, but a redirection. Initially, you may feel heartbreak. Embrace it; it's a sign of your emotional health; it shows your heart is healthy enough to experience love and heartbreak. Turn to Allah and seek His guidance in choosing what is best for you. Place your trust in Allah and continue your search.","tags":[{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a6","tag":"Marriage: Pre-Marriage","count":68},{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a9","tag":"Relationships: Potential Spouse","count":44}],"createdOn":"2024-07-09T20:41:00.185Z"}