{"_id":"668da03b0b76658b4c2331b5","title":"How should Muslims act when getting into arguments with our parents?","question":"How should we react when getting into arguments with parents, specifically ones who are arrogant and get angry quickly? Are we sinful for just walking away?","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Firstly, we need to avoid getting into arguments with parents as much as we can. However, when an argument is unavoidable, then regardless of how the parent is, we are required to be respectful at all times. We must never walk away from or turn our back to our parents. However, if walking away is the only effective way to deescalate the situation, then it would not be sinful to do so for that purpose and after informing them that you have to walk away in order to de-escalate. \\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"underline\":true},\"insert\":\"What if in an attempt to calm them down, they get even more angry?\"},{\"insert\":\"\\nIn that case, do not attempt to calm them down and consider walking away if that is the only option you have left before things escalate. \\n\\n\"},{\"attributes\":{\"underline\":true},\"insert\":\"Are we blameworthy for showing a little anger before leaving the conversation or is it on them for initiating argument, and what’s the best way to approach these situations?\"},{\"insert\":\"\\nDo your best to remain calm and respectful. We are not allowed to show anger to our parents or to speak to them with anger, rudeness, or disrespect, even if we think they are wrong. If you do your best to remain calm and respectful and you still become angry during the argument, then you must not direct that anger towards your parents, instead direct the anger towards the situation you are both in. However, you should still apologize to them afterwards for becoming angry and let them know that you are doing your best to control your anger. You should make it a personal goal to work on controlling your anger. Remember that by controlling your anger you save yourself from the anger of Allah. Remember if you cannot control your anger you expose yourself to problems in this life and punishment in the next life.\\n\\nIt will not happen overnight but with persistence and reliance on Allah for help, you will overcome it. Make the following supplication on a consistent basis. \\nThe Prophet (ﷺ) taught this dua to our Mother Aisha: \\nاللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ مُحَمَّدٍ اغْفِرْ لي ذَنْبِي و أَذْهِبْ غَيْظَ قَلْبيْ وأَجِرْنِي مِنْ مُضِلَّاتِ الفِتَن \"},{\"attributes\":{\"align\":\"right\"},\"insert\":\"\\n\"},{\"insert\":\"Allahumma rabba Muhammadin ighfir li dhanbi wa adhhib ghayza qalbi wa ajirni min mudillati-l-fitan\\n“\"},{\"attributes\":{\"italic\":true},\"insert\":\"O Allah, Lord of Muhammad, forgive my sins, remove anger from my heart and save me from tribulations which send people astray.\"},{\"insert\":\"” [Ahmad]\\n\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668da0010b76658b4c232b9d","tag":"Relationships: Parent and Child","count":111}],"createdOn":"2024-07-09T20:40:27.864Z"}