{"_id":"668da02f0b76658b4c23306c","title":"What should you do if you feel you do not love your husband?","question":"What should you do if you feel you do not love your husband? I am not looking for advise on divorce-that’s not the route I'm looking at. More like ways to cope? We've been married for multiple years (was arranged by parents but had known each other and agreed to it) and it’s not an abusive relationship alhamdulillah. However, I do feel like there’s a lack of “love” from both parties and have been feeling very depressed about it. Should I take this as a test from Allah (to live a life without experiencing romantic “love”)?","answer":"Our entire journey on this earth serves as a test from Allah. Therefore, let's concentrate on finding the best ways to handle situations and progress forward. It's important to recognize that feelings in a marriage can change and evolve over time. The romantic love phase that often characterizes the beginning of a relationship can transition into a deeper, more stable companionship. The absence of intense romantic feelings does not necessarily mean your marriage is failing or unsuccessful. Many successful and enduring marriages are built on other elements like mutual respect, shared values, companionship, and commitment.\nConsider seeking the guidance of a professional counselor or therapist who specializes in marital issues. A counselor can provide you with strategies to improve your relationship and help you work through your feelings. Reflect on the positive aspects of your marriage. Consider the things you appreciate about your husband and the companionship you share. Sometimes, focusing on the positives can rekindle affection. Work on strengthening your spiritual connection. Engage in acts of worship, dua, classes, and dhikr together. Strengthening your faith can bring you closer as a couple. Also seek support from friends, family, or support groups. Talking to others who have experienced similar challenges can provide you with valuable insights and emotional support. \nFinally, it's also important to remember that love can take different forms in a marriage, such as companionship love, familial love, and even spiritual love. These can be just as fulfilling and meaningful as romantic love.","tags":[{"_id":"668d9ffb0b76658b4c232ade","tag":"Marriage: Roles and Responsibilities","count":56},{"_id":"668da0150b76658b4c232daf","tag":"Relationships: Spouse","count":42}],"createdOn":"2024-07-09T20:40:15.792Z"}