{"_id":"668da02d0b76658b4c23302b","title":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"Are private DMs with a potential spouse permissible?\"}]}","question":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"A brother approached me online (via DMs) for the purposes of marriage. I'm not currently ready to get engaged/married, but I think we are compatible and I would be interested in him for marriage. When I told him so, he said that he was fine waiting until I would be ready and asked that we continue privately messaging in the meantime. My first instinct was to say no because we were not married, which would make private messages impermissible, but he said that since our intentions are to get to know each other for marriage in the future, it is fine. Is this true? Can we continue to DM? I won't meet up with him privately, so I am not worried about falling into zina, but I'm still concerned about doing something displeasing to Allah.\"}]}","answer":"{\"ops\":[{\"insert\":\"You should thank Allah for giving you the instinct to know that something is not right. It's truly a blessing. Follow your instinct and do not engage in any further conversations with him. Then when you are ready to pursue marriage, if he is still interested, begin by introducing him to your family, then from there you can arrange time to talk. If you search the CarolinaQA website, you will find similar questions and links to beneficial lectures on preparing for marriage.\"}]}","tags":[{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a6","tag":"Marriage: Pre-Marriage","count":68},{"_id":"668d9fdf0b76658b4c2327a9","tag":"Relationships: Potential Spouse","count":44},{"_id":"668da0120b76658b4c232d5e","tag":"Contemporary Life: Social Media","count":26}],"createdOn":"2024-07-09T20:40:13.282Z"}